The ADHD Effects on Marriage with Melissa Orlov | Guest Blog

March 1st, 2012

I have had the pleasure of knowing Melissa Orlov over the past few years and when asked recently to write a “six word biography,” She wrote “Failed marriage resuscitated.  Now helping others.”  Melissa has blended her personal experience of coming back from the brink of divorce with an ADHD spouse with knowledge about ADHD in adults, becoming one of the top experts in how ADHD impacts relationships.  She runs an active online community on the topic, consults with couples struggling to change their marriage dynamics, teaches seminars to couples as well as professional therapists and counselors on the topic, and has written an award-winning book, The ADHD Effect on Marriage.  You can find more information at

As mentioned in my last Newsletter,  I have been taking a 7 week class with Melissa entitled The ADHD Effect on Couples this past month and thought it would be great if she would be willing to do a guest interview for my blog on the subject .  She graciously accepted and the following is the result;  (more…)

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ADHD Goes to College (Part 1 and 2)

March 1st, 2012

Why Freshman with ADHD are Most at Risk – Part 1

By Leslie Rouder, LCSW

It has been reported in a recent study that one in 20 college freshman were diagnosed with ADHD in 2010.   If you are faculty member, this means that the likelihood that at least one student with ADHD will be enrolled in each one of your classes every semester.   In addition, and more perplexing, is that there is a good possibility that you may have one or several students attending your classes with undiagnosed ADHD.  

So, what does this mean?  How best can the faculty accommodate this particular disability and how might one identify, or perhaps approach a student who has not disclosed that he or she, in fact, has any disability?  And if we are accommodating these students, why are they most at risk?

When a student provides faculty with an accommodation memo, it is clear what the academic accommodations for that student will be, however the exact nature of the diagnosis is not provided.  It is up to the student and faculty to discuss the accommodations as well as one’s learning style and needs.   Although this conversation is often encouraged by the Disability Services Office at most universities, it is not required.  Therefore, this conversation may never happen and what may seem like a “hidden disability” to many, might actually be an obstacle in excelling academically, socially, and psychologically for these students. 

How might a student with ADHD present in the classroom setting and why are freshman students with this diagnosis at greatest risk for failure?   We first would have to look at the possible ways in which ADHD effects one’s functioning both in and out of the classroom setting.

In reading the latest information on adult ADHD symptoms developed by Russell Barkley, along with Kevin Murphy and Mariellen Fischer, they came up with 91 updated symptoms that would be predictive of an individual having ADHD.  Out of their list of 91, I compiled the following list of symptoms that would be most detrimental in an academic environment. Individuals with ADHD may present with several or any combination of the following symptoms;

  • Is easily distracted by irrelevant thoughts when he or she needs to concentrate on something.
  • Is prone to daydreaming
  • Is easily bored
  • Has difficulty delaying gratification and working on completing goals.
  • Starts a project or task without reading or listening to directions carefully
  • Wastes or mismanages time
  • Fails to meet deadlines for assignments
  • Has difficulty planning for upcoming events
  • Forgets to do things he or she is supposed to do
  • Is not able to comprehend what he or she reads as well as he or she should be able to do; has to reread material to get its meaning
  • Can’t seem to remember what he or she previously heard or read about
  • Has trouble motivating self to start work
  • Has difficulty motivating self to stick with work and get it done
  • Has trouble staying awake or alert in boring situations
  • Not motivated to prepare in advance for things that must be done
  • Has difficulty organizing his or her thoughts
  • Has difficulty explaining things in their proper order or sequence
  • Is easily frustrated
  • Has difficulty prioritizing and has difficulty doing things in their proper order or sequence
  • Can’t seem to get to the point of his or her explanation as quickly as others
  • Has trouble doing what her or she intends to do

One can easily see, given the above list, how this might negatively impact a student’s ability to thrive in an academic environment.  In the best case scenario, a student who is aware of his or her  diagnosis and is being treated with medication, while seeking academic accommodations  and coaching will have the best chance at being successful.  Medication alone, however, although helpful, does not completely mitigate the negative symptoms.  In fact a recent URI and Lehigh University Research study of college students with ADHD, determined that although medication (in this case Vyvance, a widely used psycho-stimulant) was helpful in improving symptoms and executive functioning, the improvements did not reach the levels of their peers.  “This tells us that stimulant medication is an effective treatment that needs to be supplemented by other treatment, including educational support and accommodations,” according to Dr. DePaul, who was involved with this study. (more…)

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